Welcome to Charlotte DeHavillande Bridal Therapy
You deserve a space to talk through all of your concerns, worries and fears, as well as all of your lovely plans, with a non-judgemental and impartial person.
Let me be that for you.
As a 2023 bride, I've felt the crushing pressure of perfectionism.
I know what it feels like to second guess every decision and to panic about whether my worries will show up on my wedding day. I know that feeling of desperation for everything to be perfect.
Let's agree one thing now, together, and relieve a little bit of that pressure.
It's not going to be perfect.
But it is going to be a great day.
About Charlotte DeHavillande Bridal Therapy
Your Bridal Therapist
As a qualified therapist, registered with the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society, my mission is to help you to discover what you truly want from your wedding day, as well as helping you to navigate the challenges of wedding planning.
For anyone who is looking for some support during the wedding planning process, I'm here to make sure your voice is heard.
Everyone is welcome.
Your Therapeutic Journey
Using a person-centred approach, and drawing on psychotherapeutic and cognitive-behavioural skills, you will learn to understand your own wants and needs, without pressure from family and friends.
Our sessions will focus on what you feel is most important to you. Whether that's managing the expectations from others around you, or challenging your own limiting beliefs, you are at the centre of the work we do together.
Integrative therapist, wedding enthusiast and Bride of 2023.
Yes, that's me in the picture.
I am the proof that bridal therapy can make all the difference, that's why I have proudly shared my own wedding photography with you. What you are seeing is a young woman feeling her most confident and happiest self, free from expectations.
It felt like a no brainer to take the skills I had learned planning a wedding along with my background in mental health to create a space for brides to connect with their truest self.
Like you, my wedding meant everything to me.
Being a Bride became my whole personality. My days started with a planning call to my mum before work and on an evening I would struggle to fall asleep thinking of all the things I needed to organise. It was stressful, but I loved it so much.
Designing my wedding was my greatest joy. It was an expression of how I wanted to be seen. Elegant. Timeless. But with that came a lot of pressure. The pressure to have the most perfect day because I was only going to do this once. One chance at wearing the perfect dress. One perfect venue.
One perfect day.
The Wedding Industry has completed rebranded in recent years. Now, it's all about aesthetics. What's going to look good on Instagram? It's easy to get pulled into that mindset when planning your day. I know I did. Do you go for Romatically Rustic, or Modern Minimalism? Are you a Winter Wedding or Boho Bride?
I was so overwhelmed with choices. On top of that, I had struggled with my body image for twenty years and the pressure of looking like a beautiful bride was crushing. I was terrified I was going to wake up on the morning of my wedding day to a bad body image day. It would have ruined the whole thing for me.